For us sexually adventurous men, sometimes it can be difficult to figure out exactly what we are and aren’t into. We’re open minded, and know that some things take a while to grow on us before we get really into it. What should be the point where you realize that it isn’t working for you? When do you draw the line from being "game" to not getting yourself into something you are really not enjoying? What are signs that you’ve hit your limit?

Tired of being a wallflower? Want to be that kind of chub who gets the boy that he’s after? It’s easier than you think to start getting the guys you are checking out. It doesn’t require a major change. It’s just the little things.  Once you’ve got the esteem part down, there are still things that you can do in order to get a guy to do what you want. You’ll be surprised who you can pull with a lot of self esteem and a few of these tricks!  

Ten Things Guys Hate Online

You don’t want to piss off the guy you are chatting with. You want to make a good impression. It can be difficult sometimes to know what exactly would set someone off, though. We’ve all had what seemed like pleasant chats end with the guy we were talking to logging off and being angry. Hell, sometimes routine chat will make someone mad. It’s not always your fault. But you can make sure that you try to avoid the following top ten things that guys absolutely hate online!

It’s not always easy to tell the point where things move from being casual fuck friends to being in a relationship. It’s strangest when neither of you are pushing for it to move. Sometimes it just happens naturally. Your habits and need change when you realize that you want to be with someone for the long haul. It happens subconsciously at first, although you can get “yep, this is the guy for me” moments as well. So how do you know if you guys are really moving towards that relationship phase?

When Are You Objectifying Your Chub?

We’ve said it before. A little objectification isn’t bad. Hell, between two adults who know what they’re doing, and have agreed to it, total objectification of each other, right down to body worship, is totally fine. If you are in the beginning stages of being a chaser, and don’t exactly know how to pursue a relationship with a chub, you need to know when you are genuinely in love or attracted to someone, and when it’s just a case of objectification. Here are some very strong signs that it’s not him that you’re attracted to, but his body!

Not all of us want the same thing. Some of us are into kink. Others of us have a wild streak that is much more intellectual. And there are those of us that just want to kiss and cuddle. So what do you do when one partner wants something very off the wall, and the other prefers vanilla? What are the acts that we as gay chubs and chasers like to do that others might find weird or a turn off?

Does hell have no fury like a chub scorned? As a chaser, you probably shouldn’t find out. You don’t want to get caught cheating on a chub. You don’t want to be a using boyfriend and cut and run. Because if you piss off a chub, well, you better watch out! It’s not just a matter of morals. There are a ton of reasons why you should treat your chub nicely. Here are the top seven reasons why you should avoid causing heartbreak with a big man. Heed the warnings well!

The Little Things That Bug Us About Chubs and Chasers

The chubs here love chasers. And the chasers here love chubs. But that doesn’t mean that as we spend more time getting to know the community, that we can’t see some annoying commonalities and traits among our prospective partners that we wouldn’t change. It’s wrong to think that all chubs are the same, just as it’s wrong to think that all chasers are the same. But as you date, you do see some things pop up occasionally. Little things that bug us, quirks and problems that are small, but noticeable.

Sex getting too run of the mill for you? Looking for something more extreme? Here’s the second part of our look at sex that’s not just kinky, but downright extreme.

"It Wasn't In!" And Other Misadventures In Chub Sex - Part II

Last time we discussed some of the worst sex disasters that can happen in chub sex. But it wasn’t enough. We got so many great horror stories that we had to share a few more! Things get a little more unpleasant this time, as we add some very unfortunate body fluids to the mix, as well as some familiar injuries. Here are five more great (but scary) stories of the things that can go wrong when two hot men fuck. Enjoy!

You've done it. Your hookup is now your boyfriend. Or you quit the world of random hookups and decided to see someone steadily. How does this change the way you interact with the online world? Should you be doing things differently? Does this mean that you have to get rid of all your online friends?

More Advanced Roleplaying Scenarios - Part I

Last time we talked about roleplaying ideas for chubs and chasers, we were looking at simple ideas that could be done in an evening with two fairly kinky men. Fuck that. This time we are turning things up way more than a notch, and suggesting some scenarios that can push your boundaries. Here are the first in a list of very hot ideas that you should try, if roleplaying really turns you on!

It Wasn't In And Other Misadventures in Chub Sex - Part I

We asked some of our friends at Bulk Male to provide us some of their most frequent horror stories on sex in the chub and chaser community. Just what has gone wrong when they get sexual? What mistakes have you made cruising someone? What’s the worst single experience you’ve had during a sexual encounter?

As a big guy, where do you want to go out? Where’s the best place for you to hang out, have fun, feel comfortable, and meet cute boys? The gay scene has its divisions, whether it’s twink, bear, leather, etcetera, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t cross some boundaries. A big guy can have a good time in every part of the gay scene, believe it or not. It’s not just about how others react to you being there, but how comfortable you are yourself in the scene.

So you want to make the switch. You like him so much as a hookup that you want this hot chub or chaser to be your boyfriend. It’s not always an easy fit. Some people that work together well in the openness of short-term hookups won’t stand each other over dinner. But sometimes you can make that shirt from meeting only for fucking into something more.

Alright, you’ve found a hookup. Now to get him to your place. It’s easy enough to find a guy online who is interested in you. The hard part is to actually meet in person. Today we’ll look at the factors that could influence him actually going to your place, and what you can do to make it as much of a no-brainer as possible.

The Do's and Don'ts of Playing With Another Man's Chub

Playing with another man’s partner can be a trying proposition. You guys might be friends, or he could be a relative stranger, but either way, you are getting involved with the complex interpersonal dynamics of a man and his partner. It can get messy. But don’t worry. Men in non-traditional relationships can be great, hassle-free lovers. Here are some tips on what you should and shouldn’t do with them!

Navigating the chub and chaser community, or the gay community in general, online can be a daunting task. The biggest problem? Cracking the code used by men in their chats online. It’s not a distinct code like the bear one, no letters or numbers involved. It’s trying to read into what people say, indirectly. So what are some of the code words?

Can You Have a Threeway With Another Chaser?

Chaser on chaser action. In a scene that is so focused on the disparity of size, and the admiration of big men, it seems strange. In the bear community, there’s nothing unusual about two cubs playing together. But in the chub community, when you identify yourself as a chaser, you are saying exactly what you like: fat men. That’s who you want to play with. So why would you go against your innate sexual preferences and play with a guy who isn’t big? 

How adventurous have you been? Here’s a quick checklist of some of the hot things that a chub and chaser can do, in or out of a relationship. What have you done? What would you like to try? Here’s Bulk Male’s list of the best of the best for chub and chaser fucking. Think you are an adventurous big man or chaser?

New Relationships for the New Century

With the liberation of the gay community in much of the western world has also brought with it a reflection on what actually constitutes a relationship.  So if a one-on-one, monogamous relationship doesn’t work for you, what other relationships are out there?  

Chub & Chaser Horror Stories - Part III

Look out, frightened readers! Here is the last crop of chub and chaser dating horror stories. This time up, we have more rude dates, some unpleasant discoveries, and someone with a rather unusual addiction. 

How Do I Know If I Am His Type?

The trouble with meeting guys, whether online, at bars, or at your bear or chub club is that you don’t always know if you are his type. There are so many types out there. No one likes to feel rejected. What are signs to look for to see if he is your type? How can you know?

Chub & Chaser Horror Stories - Part II

Here's a little Christmas present for you: another crop of the worst chub and chaser dating horror stories you've heard! From crazy roommates, to bizarre date behavior, it's got it all. 

Chub & Chaser Horror Stories - Part I

Just in time for Halloween - the first in our series looking at the terror that is a bad date! Whether it's a cheap date, rude behavior, or just plain bizarre living situations, our men have seen it all! 

Top Ten Places to Have Sex Outside Your House

Sex in public. It’s a fantasy many of us have. But where should you do it? Where’s the best place to do it? What are the risks? What are the highs? And what places do and don’t work for big men? 

Two Chasers to a Chub?

It might seem like an arrangement where only one person wins. Can you imagine sharing the object of your affection? The man you with whom you want to be intimate? But it happens all the time. Some men have multiple lovers who never know the other exists, while others openly coexist together. Some have a threeway relationship. Whatever the set up is, it can work, and it can be healthy. 

Keeping that Jealousy Caged

Sure, you can meet a big man anywhere. But, where can you go where you are most likely to meet a hot big guy, click, and then go somewhere for hot fun? Here at Bulk Male we’ve been looking for big men for years, and we’ve assembled the best places to find a big man and get exactly what you want from him! 

The Best Places for Chub Fun

Sure, you can meet a big man anywhere. But, where can you go where you are most likely to meet a hot big guy, click, and then go somewhere for hot fun? Here at Bulk Male we’ve been looking for big men for years, and we’ve assembled the best places to find a big man and get exactly what you want from him! 

Am I Too Kinky?

Is there such a thing as too kinky? No. There’s too kinky for a prospective partner – if he calls himself "vanilla" and you want to tie him up and get into some watersports, there’s going to be some problems. But if you find a like-minded guy, and you’re both consenting adults, there’s no such thing as too kinky. Check out what you are into, and see where that puts you in terms of kink level. You might not realize that your preferences are actually on the mild side – or you are kinkier than you thought. 

Finding a Big Man Online

It can be harder than some people might think to find a big man online, especially locally. What if you live in an area without a very active bear or chub community? In places where there aren’t a lot of bear clubs or cross-communication to get awareness of chub or bear sites going, you’ll find that horny or lonely gay men go on the more mainstream, nationally or internationally known sites. So what are the pros and cons for chasers surfing these gay sites? Let’s have a look at each, and how they can work for you.

Hooked on a Superchub?

So you’re into big guys. Really big guys. And that’s great! Superchubs are fucking hot – so many guys get off on everything about them. Just so much man to love! But there are a few things we’d like you to think about before you start dating a very big guy. It’s one thing to look at superchubs on tv, the internet, or in pictures, and it’s another to be in the reality of dating a superchubby man. 

Pitch-Perfect Profiles

Yeah, posting up a profile with some pics and your stats is an easy thing to do. But is it an easy thing to do well? What are guys looking for when they cruise pictures? How can you get the right guy to reply? What if you’re looking for a hookup? How direct should you be? There are many questions when you are putting yourself out there, and online. Here’s a look at creating the right profile for you, getting the right guys interested, and getting what you want!

You want sex with a big man. And who can blame you? Big men are hot. Fucking, sucking, and just getting naked with big men is a great pastime. But where are they hiding? Where can you find a big man, horny, and ready for a hookup? Let’s have a look at the top places to find a horny chub who wants to get it on!

Going Out... Together

A tough choice hits you when you finally decide to settle down and commit to someone. Do you forsake the gay lifestyle, leaving behind the bars, events, and get togethers of the chub and bear community? Or do you try to navigate your relationship through the tricky path of the scene? Whether you are in an open relationship, or monogamous, going out with your partner introduces a whole new set of rules of behavior. Do you and your partner want to hang out together and expand your circle of friends? Or do you prefer to mingle independently?

How to Escape from a Bad Hookup
Hope springs eternal, especially in the wild world of casual hookups. You chat about mutual sexual interests, maybe he sends you a picture or describes himself. So, you think, this chub or chaser has everything going for him. It’s going to be great. Then you get there. The picture was about ten years old. He’s shorter, thinner, heavier, or just plain uglier than he let on. There’s "Tender Moments" figurines everywhere. And there you are, stuck at his place. What do you do? How do you get out of it?

Big and Single
Don’t be down on yourself for being single. Finding Mister Right is pretty damn tricky. But as we know, connections do happen, and happy couples, however elusive it may seem, do exist. So, before you start getting down on yourself, let’s have a look at some reasons that you might be single, and ways to change them.

Roleplaying
Mark strained against his ropes one more time. They wouldn’t budge. He was tightly tied to his bedpost, his naked chest getting goose-bumps in the cold night air. He quickly drew in another breathe as he heard footsteps approach the bedroom again. The door swung open again and the burglar, silhouetted by the hallway lights, stood watching.

Is He a Chaser?
For gay men, the perennial question was always, "Is he gay?" The man giving you eye contact at the bookstore, or walking down the street would be scanned for signs of an alternate sexuality. But now, for large men, there’s a second, equally important question: "Is he a chaser?"

Ten Ways to Be a Chaser Gentleman
With Valentine’s Day looming, you may be planning a romantic date with your beau. For once, you’ll ditch the gay bar or the sofa, maybe take in a dinner and a movie, and really show your man how much you care about him. But is being a gentleman a lost art?

Post-Romantic Relationships
It might seem while chatting on the internet or hanging around at bars that most gay relationships are fleeting, with boyfriends changing with the seasons. But there are long-term couples out there. Hell, some of these couples are even monogamous! Let’s assume that you’re not a starry-eyed romantic. You want a relationship with someone, but you don’t necessarily think it all has to happen along the heterosexual pattern.

International Love
Long distance relationships are never easy. They take their toll on your commitment, are strained by your physical needs, and can be very expensive. But dating someone from a different state or province is a cake-walk compared with trying to date a guy who lives in a different country.

Bottoms Up
Sex life a little boring lately? Well, maybe it’s time you got off the couch and on your back. Big, small, top, or bottom it doesn’t matter. Everyone can benefit from our special sex tune up.

War Paint
You go to the local bar with your man, when suddenly in walks God's gift to man-kind. And guess what? He's set his sights on your honey. But before you start slugging away, we have a couple tactics that will help you save face and stop him dead in his tracks.

Playin' Hard to Get
Every dog loves a good chase and men are no different. We'll show you how to make men your drooling love slaves!

Huntin' for Big Game
See that gorgeous hunk at the end of the bar. What you do in the next 5 minutes will determine if you ever get a shot at this man of your dreams.

The Unspoken Language of Love
How to read his body language and let your moves do the talking

At the Speed of Sex
Everyone wants to get laid and what could be more natural? But we've got news for you, your sex drive might be getting in the way of finding the relationship you're looking for.